Refined, Attuned, Systemic, Holistic • High-Touch Work for Relationship Repair and Clarity
Couples Therapy Designed for Depth, Repair, and Honest Connection
Relationships often struggle not because people don’t care—but because the emotional patterns underneath the surface have never been fully understood.
When tension, withdrawal, misattunement, or protection take over, communication tools alone can’t rebuild connection.
My couples therapy work is intentionally spacious, grounded, and refined.
It’s for partners who want to understand the deeper architecture of their dynamic and create a steadier, more honest way of relating.
Book here for Minneapolis-St. Paul residents, or here for people outside of the Minneapolis-St. Paul area
Why This Work Is Different
Many approaches focus on “better communication.”
But most couples don’t need a new script—they need to understand why certain moments feel threatening, overwhelming, or unreachable in the first place.
My work goes beneath the argument:
what the body anticipates
what each nervous system is protecting
where attachment histories surface
why vulnerability feels risky
how longing gets buried under defensiveness or silence
Once we understand the system you’re in together, we can begin to change it.
What Couples Therapy Looks Like
Our work together is:
highly attuned: I track your relationship, pacing, tone, and subtle shifts quickly
systemic: we explore the deeper patterns shaping your dynamic
holistic: integrating attachment, nervous system responses, and meaning
calm and contained: grounded enough for both partners to stay engaged
non-pathologizing: every reaction makes sense in context
This is a place where both partners can feel seen, understood, and supported—even when tension is high or uncertainty is present.
Who I Work With
I support couples who are:
feeling stuck in repeating cycles
recovering from rupture, distance, substance use or betrayal
navigating differences in pacing, sensitivity, or communication
managing neurodivergence within the relationship
overwhelmed by emotional disconnection
unsure whether to continue or step back thoughtfully
Partners often come in feeling tired, skeptical, or unsure how to move forward.
You don’t need to have the answers—just the willingness to explore what’s underneath the pattern.
How the Process Creates Change
We slow things down enough to notice:
where tension builds
where defenses rise (and coping barriers: substances, affairs)
where connection breaks
where vulnerability wants to emerge but doesn’t feel safe
Then we begin rebuilding—not through scripts or techniques, but through moments of clarity and truth that allow your nervous systems to reorient toward each other.
Repair is not about perfection.
It’s about presence, honesty, and responsiveness.